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When my daughter was 17 she was in a near fatal car accident. I remember it like it was yesterday even though it was in 2004. It was a rainy night and I had been trying to reach her on her cell phone. Her fried came over and picked her up just as I was getting home from work. They were going into the mountains and she would be home later. The rains came and I attempted to call her over and over again, each time the call went into her voice mail. Finally the phone rang and I anticipated it was her giving some excuse of why she was late and it was the hospital emergency room trauma center in Boulder. They had brought her in via ambulance after a car accident. The hospital was about 30 minutes away and I remember the serial drive my husband and I took to the hospital. They would not tell us anything over the phone, they just told us to drive safe and get there as quick as possible. I can still feel the emotion of it all as I write this.
This quote in the MKS -- Part Eleven read "A very distressing situation came into my life, which could not have been the result of my thought, as I certainly never entertained any thought which could have such a result." Interesting enough, before I knew about the power of our thoughts and our language I had little respect for what was coming out of my mouth, much less what it was doing to me and the people around me. Every time my daughter walked out the door I said, "Don't get in a car accident." While we are only as good as what we know, I honestly did not know. I was planting this into her thought process. We make choices determined by our experiences and our thoughts and what we know. I do not blame myself for her accident, however, I do take responsibility for what I think about and what comes out of my mouth.
My daughter did survive, and as I have mentioned in previous blogs she recently had a beautiful healthy daughter.
About a year later the local newspaper wrote an article about the accident.
There were so many miracles that happened that day. For one, someone actually saw the vehicle go off the road and immediately called 911. It just so happened the volunteer fire department was having a meeting and they were only minutes away. My daughter and her friend were in the worst shape and were taken to the trauma center. The other two were taken to a local hospital with minor injuries. The young man in the vehicle broke his neck and was paralyzed from the neck down, my daughter had sustained a traumatic brain injury, along with a shattered orbital, her jaw was broken in two places and she had several skull fractures. The first night the doctors politely told us we would have to see what the morning would bring. The local newspaper wrote that the blond girl would probably not make it through the night. Thank God we did not see that until the next day and she has survived the night. Come to find out she had been submerged in the Thompson River and her body was 1 degree above hypothermia. The doctors believed that is what kept her brain from swelling and saved her life. Another miracle.
As the reporter continued interviewing the two accident victims, some very interesting comments came out of it. My daughter, who was a model and actor at the time had no regrets. Even though she would be dealing with residuals from the accident for years to come. The young man, who was now partially paralyzed and had spent months in the hospital said, "He had always had a great fear of becoming paralyzed." He also said, "I was on a bad path in my life and this straightened him out." Both have gone on and have created wonderful lives for themselves.
"Because the thoughts you hold in your mind determine what happens in your life, it's vital to assume conscious responsibility for your subconscious thoughts." Charles Hannel (I am not sure if this is exact because I had to possibly modify it to fit on my Twitter account)
What I have learned, be careful what you think about, be careful what you talk about "We fail to remember that like attracts like in the mental world, and that the though which we entertain brings to us certain friendships, championships of a particular kind, and these in turn bring about conditions and environment, which in turn are responsible for the conditions of which we complain." -- MKS
We never know what to expect in life... sometimes the darkest moments become the brightest moments. Like you, I have had a life of ups and downs and at certain points in my life I wasn't sure if I could go get much further down.