Wow... this morning I got up early while it was quit to write my blog. I committed to myself (and possibly everyone who reads my blogs) that I would write at least one blog a month this year. Whoops... it is February 1st and I am not sure how January got missed!
Well, there I go again lying to myself. I know exactly how January got missed, I did not prepare. I had a few topics that were mulling around in my head for the past month and I may use those to write about later this year, but quite honestly I did not prepare soon enough. I did not make it a priority. I figured I could do it the next day and guess what? Last night after a long day my brain was fried and deep down inside I knew I could write something and I also knew it would be crap. I made a commitment to myself I would not write crappy blogs. I lied to myself, I broke a contract with myself and I could kick myself and feel bad and feel like I was justified. I can come up with a million excuses (there I said it... excuses) to justify why I didn't get it done. So NO excuses, tell the truth to myself and then do better. Write a great blog, I didn't really have to confess any of this to YOU (I mean ME). But guess what, that is counterproductive. Last night I went to bed, told myself I would sleep on it and I would be inspired in the morning and here I am. And, I told myself the truth. I did not blame anyone else, I did not point any fingers and it actually felt good.
I even wrote something like that on my vision board I made this past weekend. If you look on my Facebook you might be able to find a photo of it. There is a story behind the photo of Johnny Depp... DM and I will explain.
Try saying this when someone asks you about something you know you should have done and you didn't. "I take full responsibility for... (whatever happened). Our usual first response is all the excuses as to why we did not get it done. We take offence, become defensive and you can feel the energy get sucked out of the room. What if you said you take full responsibility and say how can we (meaning YOU) make this right. We ARE HUMAN! Mistakes happen, things get missed and how we handle the situation determines how we show up in life. Think about it… Are we always making excuses for everything? I was. Hell, I was blaming dead people because they told me something (past programming) and I made decisions and excuses based on what they told me when I was a kid. It is funny how we remember all the bad stuff and only a few good things.
I (meaning all of US) have to take responsibility, my life is my life and I get to choose how I want to show up in it. Do I want to show up with an excuse or do I want to show and take responsibility? Believe me, once I started taking responsibility I felt more powerful. I felt good and I liked it. I am often in awe of myself. It is hard to believe I have come this far. It was not alone that is for sure and a lot of people have supported me along the way. I look back at where and who I was when I started this journey. I could not sleep at night knowing there was nothing I could do and I felt like I was just floating along in life and everyone else was in control of my life. Something in me changed, I became disgusted, I knew it, and I wanted something different. It was downright scary and I cried a lot.
For me, leadership is realizing that YOU (meaning me) have to take responsibility. I made a decision... Do you want to be a GOOD leader or do YOU (meaning me) want to be a GREAT leader? A friend once told me to watch the leaders around me and distinguish the good from the great. There are lots of differences and I will discuss many of them over the next several months in my monthly blog. However, today it is about taking responsibility. I think you know what I am talking about.
I am going to mention at least one or two of the great books I have read during my "Journey Of Self Discovery." It is always amazing to me what YOU (meaning me) learn from reading or in this case listening to a lot of GREAT books.
"Edgy Conversations" by Daniel Waldschmidt - Powerful!! How are you playing life... are you the best you can be or are you just floating along? You probably have a lot more purpose in life. This book was recommended to me by my good friend Tom Chenault. Dan Waldschmidt is a great guy and I have had the honor to chat with him on several occasions over the past year or so. He is very wise... but it wasn't always that way.
I learn so much from my mentors, my friends, my family and from the GREAT books I read.
Thanks for stopping by and reading my blog. I hope it helps you on YOUR (this time I really do mean YOU) "Journey of Self Discovery."
We never know what to expect in life... sometimes the darkest moments become the brightest moments. Like you, I have had a life of ups and downs and at certain points in my life I wasn't sure if I could go get much further down.